I love the analogy that life is just a story, and not because I am a writer or anything, but because I truly believe in this now. Life has all aspects of a story: characters, themes, plot twists, foreshadowing futures, flashbacks to the past, separate chapters, and new editions written over time.
We continuously write and re-write the story of our life in every moment. Who am I now? The trick is to become a conscious writer of your story by taking back your power and control over what influences you and your subconscious mind in everything that you do.
I was more concerned about other people’s stories for the longest time that I forgot about my own story. I focused on what I saw other people had that I didn’t have. I focused on what kind of life they were having and neglected my own. I was judging my own story by comparing it to everyone else’s story.
We each have our story, and sometimes those stories overlap, but we have control over what we write for ourselves. What makes one person happy can make another person sad. What makes one person angry can make another laugh.
What is the story you are creating for yourself? Why do you do the things you do? You can edit your story at any time, in the moment, as you are living it.
If there is one thing I have learned that has truly showed me the power of self-love is that of honor and honoring yourself. I discovered I wasn’t living the life I wanted, at least not entirely.
Sure I was happy. I was in love. I am still in love. I love my parents, I love my family, I love my ex-partner, I love my friends, and I love myself. But was I truly happy for me; my goals, my dreams, my aspirations. Was I happy with the lessons I was here to learn and grow from?
I allowed myself to stagnate. I allowed myself to stop growing. I never went backwards but I was afraid of going forwards. All of my leaps I have made over the years to overcome my fears, whether physically or mentally, have brought me to a place where I am more conscious of everything that I do. And the more conscious I am, the less I feel like hating myself or putting my energy towards things I don’t want to do anymore.
Once you figure out the story you’ve been telling yourself all this time, you can choose to change it for the better. Awareness leads to conscious decisions. Make up a new story that serves you better. Make up a new story that supports you. You are making up the story of your life in every moment.
Are you a good person? Do you feel amazing? There is no right or wrong except in the story you have created in your mind. Your worthiness or lack thereof, is a story. Your confidence or lack thereof, is a story.
We are the creators of our own realities. Really ask yourself: why do you do the things you do? What is the story I am making up about myself or another person? About a situation? Are you doing something for yourself or another person? What story are you creating?
Everyone is living their own story. My way is my reality. Respect everyone’s reality as being the right one for them in that moment. Everybody is right, according to their own definitions, experiences and belief systems.
Everyone is getting the experience they chose, whether conscious or not. And either way that experience is perfect for them. There is no right or wrong. In order to say my reality is right, I have to believe that everyone else’s is wrong. Respect comes with understanding that everyone has their own story to play out.
Expand your views of the world by just paying attention to the stories you see happening around you. What is that person showing you? What is that experience telling you?
There is no need to impose on another person’s story, their reality. Share your story with them but don’t impose. Everyone is on their own journey, and we all have our paths to walk.
Changing Your Story:
Begin by noticing your patterns. We all have patterns of behavior and thought that we’ve learned over time. Make a list, use an expansion grid or whatever tools you feel comfortable using.
Take a moment to notice where your thoughts are out of alignment with your feelings. Depression is often our minds telling us a series of stories (that we are not enough, that we are alone) and those stories don’t match up to what we feel we want.
Take your power back and choose to stop the thought train that no longer serves you. That’s ridiculous. Thank you for sharing. Just remember not to come from judgment, shame, blame, guilt or anger.
Thoughts are thoughts, can you get okay with the thoughts you’ve had throughout your life? Can you get okay with making a new thought?
Once you know what you’re working with in regards to your thoughts, beliefs and the stories you’ve created, you can start throwing out the fluff: all the things that no longer serve your best interest. Expel the energy of your old life, your old story by getting okay and letting it go. Once we shed some light on our thoughts, beliefs, programs, and stories, we can use that light to transform those thoughts, beliefs, programs, and stories.
You have to make a choice. Take the responsibility for your life back or not, it is up to you. It isn’t an easy decision. It took me two years to fully understand it and to incorporate it into my own life.
Our patterns don’t have to keep repeating. Recognize your patterns, your themes, the things you keep doing over and over again. These things keep happening because they just want to be noticed. They want you to understand they are there. Once you acknowledge the loops you have been stuck in, the loops naturally unwind for you.
You can say “no, I don’t want that in my world anymore.” You are allowed to change your mind. You are allowed to change your story.
We are the masters of our own reality. We are in charge of what we think, what we choose to believe, and how we live our lives. All skills take time to master. And the mind is no different. We all want easy. We have a lot going on in our lives at any given moment. We want change right now.
Figure out how your mind works first, and then incorporate little hacks to change your system and your programming faster. When you know how your brain works, how you operate, you can re-write the coding and you can upgrade or optimize the system.
The mind is just an elaborate computer. It is a complex and powerful computer, but it is malleable. It evolves as we grow and evolve along our journey. We stay the same or we grow, and the brain is no different.
What story do you have about the world around you? What story do you have about how life works? Listen to all the stories you tell yourself. When you know your story you can change the tone, the theme, the list of characters, the plot…everything. We are all authors. We are all writers. Our book is our life.
So what are you choosing to say about it?
I like to assist others on their journey to awakening by sharing what I have come to understand about the nature of the universe. Thank you for your support by reading this blog. We expand our own knowledge, our own truth, by reading and researching many different ideas to find the ones we resonate with and incorporate into our own truth. Find your truth and live it.